"Galau" is one of the most trending word these days. I went to Google translate, it translated "galau" to "confusion". It ain't exactly perfect. But yeah, "galau" is confusion, a state of mind where people think they don't know what to do, especially in love matters.
I hardly spend a day without reading "galau" in my Path. Most of the "galau" posts are about finding Mr. Right. They are about break-ups, rejections, hanging-hopes, and so on. Love matters.
For most gays, we look for our soulmate via those dating-apps. We say 'hi' to many of those good-looking ones (or anyone matches our criteria). We talk to them. Then we meet them. Sometimes it ends on bed, sometimes it continues to second date but ends in the process, and sometimes it just really ends after first meeting.
When it ends, we grieve, we have "galau" mood, then we try again to find another man in those apps, or maybe through friends. But the cycle remains the same.
There's a guy I know, every time he went to me through Whatsapps, he would ask, "Hey, would you introduce me to a guy?" At first I tried to hook him up, but then after couple times, it got me laugh my head-off. It was so absurd because he didn't only ask me, but also asked my friends. It was just so pathetic.
We try so hard, even too hard. We don't realize we don't give ourselves a little break. We hardly breath. There isn't one moment we spend without thinking about boys, about our future partners. We forget to enjoy our lives.
Is it about happiness? Maybe we think that we will be happy if we have
someone on our side. We envy them who have boyfriends, because they seem
so happy together. Having a relationship isn't about being happy, it
is about sharing our happiness. And trust me, you won't be happy in a
relationship if you are not happy when you are single. How can you bring
happiness into a relationship if you are not happy with yourself?
I am not saying that we should stop trying or looking for our right ones. I am saying we may need to stop for a while, to enjoy our lives, to cherish our times without thinking about men (or sex even). There's so much more our lives offer than just having a relationship.
If you are 27-ish or even younger, I think it would be nicer if you use the chance to explore what you love most first. Do what you like, find your passion, work your ass off, be success. It's not that when you are partnered you can't do those things, but when you are, your chance will be limited. There will be one or two things you should sacrifice for the sake of your relationship. There will be so much time for relationship later, when you grow maturer.
Well writen perspective!
ReplyDeleteUnhappy people are just like a blackhole I think. They drain the light from others, yet still hollow inside...
Thanks Buds.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I think so too. It may be because they are too busy thinking that they will be happy when they are in relationship, so they forget about being happy for once.
Couldn't agree more..
ReplyDeleteWhen we are young, maybe our life is about to pursuit of fun.
And then we grow up and learn to be cautious.
We could be broken by someone or break someone else's bone or heart.
We look before we leap, and sometimes we don't leap because there is not always someone there to catch us, in addition, in life there's no safety net at all.
The question is, when will we stop being fun if we are over and over again fall in the same hole ? Do we need much mistakes to learn something ? I guess not.
But at east I also did it, once.. Or twice, three, four, five times ? Hihihi
Deletei am even younger than 27, somehow once experience is enough to make me more careful for the next one, because its not only about your heart, its also about the other one's heart...(like the song: rocker juga manusia, punya hati punya rasa, jangan samakan dengan pisau belati)
ReplyDeleteI admit galau is really annoying, its the heart problem, and the brain just can not take over, Galau is illogical, hard to explain. And i never understood it when still in highschool when my friend get galau. but now i understand it.
may be the most annoying is when some people just take it too over (lebay). but when we have right to express ourself, so other have a right too. so just 'harap maklum'. May be we can take a little smile when know their over reacted from their galau. like the words say: the world is a comedy to those that think; a tragedy to those that feel.