God Entrusted

I am proud and lucky to have parents who allow me to do what's best for me.

One example is the getting married and having children thingies. Generally parents will suggest (or I can say "force") their children to get married and having kids. It is said that it is because they love their children, they think about their children's future so when they get older there are people who will take care of them. Is it true? Are we as parents, ask our kids to get married because we love them? Or is it just because the common norm in the society? Or is it just because for the sake of family's name inheritance? 

Back to previous statement, we have kids so when we get older, we won't be alone, there will be someone who will take care of us. Doesn't it sound selfish?

I'm not saying this so we break loose, so we flip to our parents. It is appropriate and feasible for us to treat our parents the best. We will never be able to return their favor. We are forever in debt wit them. I'm saying this so we, who now are parents to our children, are able to let our children decide and choose what's best for them. We do owe it to them. God entrusted us our children. They are not ours to satisfy out needs. 

Oh Please, Treat Me Well

Let me translate it for you. This statement says:

Find someone:
- who always greets you "Good Morning"
- who calls you back when you hang up because you are angry
- who always let you know his/her whereabouts every single day
- who carefully listen to your problems
- who says Good Night though he/she is tired after working all day
- who accepts you for you really are
- who guides you to the right path
- who won't force any situation when it's not possible
- who always says "I Love You"
- and who always tries everything to make your relationship works

Hmm... who doesn't want a partner with those qualifications? No one.
And "Where can I find someone like that?"

We are deserved to be treated well, or best, by our loved ones. So we make criteria that suits us in finding partners. We want someone who can and is willing to treat us well, to treat us like prince or princess. Is it wrong? Of course not. Again we are deserved those things.

BUT! Yes, there's a big but here. We tend to forget that our partners also have the same privilege. They have the right to be treated the same as we are. They also wish the same criteria. Vice-versa.

How can we expect our loved ones to be what we want them to be should we are not as they expect?

Instead of saying "Find someone", why don't we state "Be someone". You can always start a relationship with expectation, the truth is we have to keep hoping along the journey. But we also have to start it with willingness to treat our loved ones the same.

Let's say that we have fulfill those criteria we mention above. We greet them Good Morning, Good Night, we listen to their problems, we guide them, we say "I love you" thousand times, yet our partners do not do them to us. What do we do then? This is my favorite part, as you can read on my previous posts, and it's there on the list of criteria above. We can always ask ourselves "Do we accept him/her as he/she really is?"

So, my answer to my question about where we can find someone who is willing to treat us like princes or princesses is I don't know. Here is what I know, and I know for sure that you will find yourself keep looking that special someone for the rest of your life as long as you are not willing to do the same to him/her. And if you, by all chance, finally find him/her with those dreamy criteria, it won't last long should your demand level  is higher than your acceptance & willingness level.