If You Can't Suck It Up

It's undeniable that fighting will happen eventually. Many couples who claim they don't fight, they will fight somehow. It's normal to have a fight here and there in relationship. 

I ever wrote about "let go". Often in a fight, we think that we are the right ones. Our opinion is right and our spouse is wrong. And there's time tho' it's crystal clear that we are on the right side, we have to let it go for the sake of our relationship.

But somehow it ain't healthy if letting go is not really letting go. It is like we are saying to ourselves, "Okay, I let it go this time, but next time I won't". It is not really a let go, because we tend to remember and make it a weapon next time we have another fight. We hold grudge. This is ain't healthy at all, not just for the relationship, but also our health. 

Again as an adult, we learn how to let go, really suck it up and won't let it out. But it's normal that sometimes we can't let go. It's like we have some unfinished business. It's there, in our minds. It annoys us frequently.

As it for me, it will be helpful to bring it up to the surface. I am not saying to confront your partner, but to let your partner know that it bothers you and together you find the solution. 

It may cost you another fight, but ain't it worth it? In the end, a true relationship will survive this. You don't wanna hold grudge, for it won't set any partnership in peace.

So, if you can't suck it up, bring it up!